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“Family” is
dictionary defined as “a group of people consisting of parents and children and
sometimes close relatives, or a group of related people.
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From the above,
Marriage is the foundation for the family Psalm 11:3.
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No marriage, no
families.
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A marriage
involves only 2 people, but family involves much more people.
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Your relationship
with your wife will determine the relationship you have in the future with your
family.
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The level of
stability you enjoy in Ministry will be determined by the depth of oneness you
share with your wife
(Eph.5:31, 32a)
PRINCIPLES OF A SUCCESSFUL HOME
You must know that success in
anything in life, and particularly in marriage, is not accidental. It is a product of proper alignment with the
truth of God’s Word. No accident is ever
said to be successful. No one succeeds
by chance. A successful marriage does
not just happen; it is made to happen. A
wise man said, “Many people dream of
success, but others wake up and work at it!” So, the responsibility for the success of
your family rests absolutely on the Couple.
1. Share Your Life With Your Mate
This
principle may sound strange on the surface, when it is usually the real problem
in many marriages.
There are several areas where sharing is very
important in marriage.
A. Sharing
of companionship, to play and worship together.
B. Sharing
of common and personal goals. This could involve financial goals, family goals,
spiritual goals, educational goals, hobbies and career.
C. Sharing
of burdens and joys. We all need someone
to talk with, when things go wrong and when they go well. We need a loving and
supportive ear.
D. Husband
and wife should learn to share their physical bodies with one another. After marriage, the physical body of the
husband belongs to the wife, and that of the wife belongs to the husband. Both husband and wife are to enjoy
satisfaction from each other’s body.
They are not expected to refrain their bodies from each other anymore (1
Corinthians 7:4).
2. Create a Healthy and Trusting Relationship
As husband and wife, you must
trust each other completely and explicitly, if you are to enjoy a long term
relationship.
Trust cannot be expected or
demanded, it must be earned. The
beginning of trust is an open relationship, where communication is free and
truthful. It is an outgrowth of one's
spiritual life, where the relationship with God has been fully resolved. A
sinner cannot be totally truthful in all their life's activities. Your marriage has a good foundation for
success when your spouse is a born-again follower of Christ. There is no deception when your life is pure
and clean. It involves the disclosure on one's morality and commitment to God,
spouse and family. It involves being
passionately interested in one's life and the life of those around one. It involves being free and honest with
yourself and everyone else. It involves character.
3. Love Your Mate With "Agape" Love
Love is one of those words
that isn't totally adequate in itself.
We use and overuse it for almost every emotion from sexual feelings to
friendship. The problem with "love" is that when we use a word to
mean everything, it soon means nothing.
It becomes shallow and soon the phrase, "I love you" carries
little weight. There are three Greek
words which we interpret in the English language as "love". The first is "eros" meaning sexual
love. The second is "phileo"
love meaning friendship. It's the word
from where the city of Philadelphia
got it name, meaning "brotherly love". A third word, "agape" is the kind
of love that God has, a self-giving love that keeps loving even when we become
unlovable. "Agape" love is
kind and patient. It seeks the welfare
of the other person and centres its attention on their needs. Agape is forgiving and merciful (1
Corinthians 13:1-13).
4. Let Christ Rule Your Home
God is all you need to have
all your needs met. Without the help of
God, you cannot amount to anything in life, especially in the area of marriage
and home.
We need God’s help (Psalm
60:11) - In order to love and relate to one another, you need the wisdom and
power that is only available through Christ.
The wealthiest people in the world have failed in marriage. The reason is simply because they don't have
the inner strength or righteousness to relate to another human being on the
high level of "agape" love.
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